If someone felt with every fiber of their being that they were a different race, or age, or height, or species, or object, then most people would not be willing to go along with the dude. You might because"live and let live" and **insert libertarian attribute** but most people would find it ridiculous.
No, but people of certain races, ages, and height often feel significant societal pressure to behave in certain ways.
Race is more cultural/historical than anything, but one of my good friends in high school was mixed race. At one point he told me that it was often hard for him because around his black friends, he was expected to "act black", and around his white friends, he was expected to "act white". It was like society kept trying to pigeonhole him into something and he was just trying to be himself. And "himself" was a mix of two different cultures and ways of acting. I learned something at that point--even though I would never have tried to make him "act white", when he was around me he felt he had to try to conform, and when he was around black friends he felt he had to try to conform, and neither was 100% natural for him.
I'm sure growing up you had evidence in Ohio of white kids who tried to "act black" -- I recall a specific term that we could just call "the wh- word" and you'd know the sort of opprobrium they endured. In predominantly black communities there are kids who resist the stereotypical "black" mold and they're often faced with ridicule from their own community for trying to "act white" or be "uppity". We live in a world where a certain type of dress, a certain type of speech, a certain type of behavior is expected in the business world to get ahead, and it's screwy that that behavior is seen in certain areas as "acting white". In fact, that was part of the issue with Kirk Ferentz and the Iowa program--it sounded from the reports like there was a certain mold that he was trying to push people into and they were angry about it.
A lot of people have difficulty in life because the world wants to categorize them one way and that's not how they feel.
I'm pretty certain that I'm on the high-functioning end of the autistic spectrum. I've spent 42 years not ever feeling like I truly "belonged" with "normal" people. Do you know what that's like? It sucks. You bring up species. The most well-known website / forum for people on the spectrum is called "Wrong Planet", and it was so named because high-functioning autistic people don't feel like there's anything "wrong" with us--if we were on our original planet with our own kind we'd be fine, but we somehow were born on the wrong planet with a bunch of humanity that is functionally different from ourselves. In truth, it's probably that something in my genetics and hormones / gene expression / etc that occurred in my mom's womb that tweaked my brain to make it just ever so slightly "wrong". But I'm not wrong--I think I'm fine and just want to get along and not be looked at like a weirdo because I'm a little off.
If someone"identifies" as a different gender, then all of a sudden a lot more people will be willing to play along. The reason for this is rooted almost entirely in politics instead of science.
Not sure what is so hard to follow here. I think that your brain is snapping into "OMG, it is time to debate transgender issues" mode.
I don't care where you stand on that, and have no desire to alter your stance. It was just an example, and I thank you for illustrating it.
Yeah, that's pretty much it. You know what they call that? "Empathy". It's the ability to realize that someone's situation may be completely different from your own, and try to understand and accommodate that because you're a good person.
Accepting that for someone who is transgender,
that's legitimately their truth in life, doesn't hurt me in any way. But being a dick to them hurts them.
Why would I want to do that?