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« Reply #23478 on: May 11, 2023, 11:36:14 AM »
@medinabuckeye1 I think there is a certain psychological phenomenon that occurs when someone "converts" to something, particularly later in life. 

It's seen of course in religion (or losing one's religion). But it's also seen in a lot of other places. Have you ever known someone who became vegetarian or vegan and just won't shut the f&$k up about it? Or joined Crossfit and will tell you how AMAZING it is and how your life will be transformed if you join too? 

I think people have a certain inertia in their choices/beliefs in life, and the amount of lift to overcome that inertia to change is usually very large. And whatever pushes them over that inertia must be powerful enough that they believe others should follow. Because once they "saw the light", they can't understand how others don't see it the same way. 

I don't see this behavior from people raised without religion. I don't see it from people who [based on their ethnic traditions, like many Indian people or Jews/Muslims] were raised not eating meat or not eating meat from particular animals. I don't see it from people who have spent their life with fitness as a hobby. But I see it from people who "change". 

So if you've been raised your entire life in a religious tradition and as you mature you come to the conclusion that everything they told you was a lie, it can cause you to feel betrayed and angry. God is supposed to be the center of your worldview, and you lose belief it even exists. It's an identity-shaking change. And then when religion continues to pervade public life, particularly in political life, and people are trying to make policies that affect you based on their belief in that "lie", it fuels that anger. It can feel like religion is continuing to poke YOU in the eye with that lie. And some people can't get over that, so they react emotionally. 

You're asking the question of why they behave that way, as if they are behaving that way based upon rational reasons. I think you may not be understanding that this behavior is driven by the id. 

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« Reply #23479 on: May 11, 2023, 11:41:53 AM »
Interesting, I do think the "converts" to whatever are often the most outspoken and like to prosetylize (if I can spell that).

For example, I retired, and immediately told everyone in hearing distance how great it is ....:)


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« Reply #23480 on: May 11, 2023, 11:43:42 AM »
Interesting, I do think the "converts" to whatever are often the most outspoken and like to prosetylize (if I can spell that).

For example, I retired, and immediately told everyone in hearing distance how great it is ....:)
@medinabuckeye1 I think there is a certain psychological phenomenon that occurs when someone "converts" to something, particularly later in life.

It's seen of course in religion (or losing one's religion). But it's also seen in a lot of other places. Have you ever known someone who became vegetarian or vegan and just won't shut the f&$k up about it? Or joined Crossfit and will tell you how AMAZING it is and how your life will be transformed if you join too?

I think people have a certain inertia in their choices/beliefs in life, and the amount of lift to overcome that inertia to change is usually very large. And whatever pushes them over that inertia must be powerful enough that they believe others should follow. Because once they "saw the light", they can't understand how others don't see it the same way.

I don't see this behavior from people raised without religion. I don't see it from people who [based on their ethnic traditions, like many Indian people or Jews/Muslims] were raised not eating meat or not eating meat from particular animals. I don't see it from people who have spent their life with fitness as a hobby. But I see it from people who "change".

So if you've been raised your entire life in a religious tradition and as you mature you come to the conclusion that everything they told you was a lie, it can cause you to feel betrayed and angry. God is supposed to be the center of your worldview, and you lose belief it even exists. It's an identity-shaking change. And then when religion continues to pervade public life, particularly in political life, and people are trying to make policies that affect you based on their belief in that "lie", it fuels that anger. It can feel like religion is continuing to poke YOU in the eye with that lie. And some people can't get over that, so they react emotionally.

You're asking the question of why they behave that way, as if they are behaving that way based upon rational reasons. I think you may not be understanding that this behavior is driven by the id.
Good point. Kinda like ex-smokers and recovering alcoholics being the most annoying people on the planet to current smokers/drinkers.

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« Reply #23481 on: May 11, 2023, 11:51:17 AM »
We might then infer any poster here who constantly derides those with religious and conservative views was raised in a very religious, conservative family back in the day ...

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« Reply #23482 on: May 11, 2023, 11:51:56 AM »
Good point. Kinda like ex-smokers and recovering alcoholics being the most annoying people on the planet to current smokers/drinkers.
Exactly. 


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« Reply #23483 on: May 11, 2023, 12:05:44 PM »
I loathe smoking with the white-hot passion of a billion burning suns.  

But I'm good with the drinking bit.

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« Reply #23484 on: May 11, 2023, 12:08:46 PM »
@medinabuckeye1 I think there is a certain psychological phenomenon that occurs when someone "converts" to something, particularly later in life.

It's seen of course in religion (or losing one's religion). But it's also seen in a lot of other places. Have you ever known someone who became vegetarian or vegan and just won't shut the f&$k up about it? Or joined Crossfit and will tell you how AMAZING it is and how your life will be transformed if you join too?

I think people have a certain inertia in their choices/beliefs in life, and the amount of lift to overcome that inertia to change is usually very large. And whatever pushes them over that inertia must be powerful enough that they believe others should follow. Because once they "saw the light", they can't understand how others don't see it the same way.

I don't see this behavior from people raised without religion. I don't see it from people who [based on their ethnic traditions, like many Indian people or Jews/Muslims] were raised not eating meat or not eating meat from particular animals. I don't see it from people who have spent their life with fitness as a hobby. But I see it from people who "change".

So if you've been raised your entire life in a religious tradition and as you mature you come to the conclusion that everything they told you was a lie, it can cause you to feel betrayed and angry. God is supposed to be the center of your worldview, and you lose belief it even exists. It's an identity-shaking change. And then when religion continues to pervade public life, particularly in political life, and people are trying to make policies that affect you based on their belief in that "lie", it fuels that anger. It can feel like religion is continuing to poke YOU in the eye with that lie. And some people can't get over that, so they react emotionally.

You're asking the question of why they behave that way, as if they are behaving that way based upon rational reasons. I think you may not be understanding that this behavior is driven by the id.

So well said.  But..  you won me over with your more succinctly stated description:  “ASSHOLE”
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« Reply #23486 on: May 11, 2023, 01:00:19 PM »
Man I could believe something like that would happen in California, but Australia?  Wow.

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« Reply #23487 on: May 11, 2023, 01:34:16 PM »
You know, when I first lost my faith around the age of 13-14, I found myself (this was the early BBS days) arguing with people about religion "online". Like many people who have believed in things only to abandon them later, I had my phase of being an anti-religion zealot... Or better term... Asshole.

Then, I matured, and figured out that it's sometimes best to argue against people trying to impose their beliefs on others, WITHOUT trying to jam a sharp stick in their eye to ridicule their beliefs.

Perhaps one day you may find such maturity as well.
My post wasn't meant as a jab at all.  Just a ho-hum connection between the idea and something unrelated.  I'm not going to alter my (especially) unremarkable posts just to avoid stepping on the toes of religous people. 

If I wanted to offend them and be an actual asshole, I have an avalanche of content for that.  But that's not close to what happened here.
And sorry if I don't agree that playing along with a delusion shows maturity.  Believers aren't 6 year-olds believing in Santa, they're 60 year olds voting in congress.  Fuck that noise.
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« Reply #23488 on: May 11, 2023, 01:43:34 PM »
My post wasn't meant as a jab at all.  Just a ho-hum connection between the idea and something unrelated.  I'm not going to alter my (especially) unremarkable posts just to avoid stepping on the toes of religous people. 

If I wanted to offend them and be an actual asshole, I have an avalanche of content for that.  But that's not close to what happened here.
And sorry if I don't agree that playing along with a delusion shows maturity.  Believers aren't 6 year-olds believing in Santa, they're 60 year olds voting in congress.  Fuck that noise.
You can choose to not be like this z 

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« Reply #23489 on: May 11, 2023, 01:52:29 PM »
I think you are right but I view this as, to paraphrase @betarhoalphadelta , immature assholery. It is understandable from teenaged Beta because we were all teenagers once, we understand.  What excuse do @OrangeAfroMan or the author of the aforementioned Slate piece have?
Well, it is IA, as you put it.  Any time someone tries to impress another with how smart they are, it's usually IA AND a vain attempt based on insecurity.  Most of us might have done this in fifth grade, maybe, most of us learned it's irrelevant.  I've seen the same kind of thing with "name dropping", my wife has a friend who is notorious for this, he can't speak for 5 minutes without some story about how he's friends with X.

I used to tell my kids "The hardest thing in life to be is yourself", which they found bizarre back then, and now tell me that fairly often.  Know thyself.  Live with it.


You guys have some interesting theories about this.  Not sure where they came from, though.
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Pretending religion doesn't do harm is incorrect.  I'll just leave it at that.
This has nothing to do with intelligence, a lack of it, or feeling superior.  When a believer no longer believes, they don't magically become smarter.  They're simply no longer convinced.
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Hell, one could make the argument that your religiosity is outside of your free will.  If you're convinced, it's probably due to your upbringing and/or experiences.  It may very well be out of your own hands!
And that is where you miss the crticism of the idea and not necessarily the person.  YES, believing in an invisible man in the sky that judges what you do and is especially concerned with what you do when you're naked is silly for any adult to believe.  Just because 5 billion people believe it doesn't make it any less silly.
I'm not sure how criticizing a silly idea/belief is being an asshole.  But since I'm outnumbered, I must be wrong.  Right?
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« Reply #23490 on: May 11, 2023, 01:53:54 PM »
My post wasn't meant as a jab at all.  Just a ho-hum connection between the idea and something unrelated.  I'm not going to alter my (especially) unremarkable posts just to avoid stepping on the toes of religous people. 

If I wanted to offend them and be an actual asshole, I have an avalanche of content for that.  But that's not close to what happened here.
And sorry if I don't agree that playing along with a delusion shows maturity.  Believers aren't 6 year-olds believing in Santa, they're 60 year olds voting in congress.  Fuck that noise.
You can choose to not be like this z
I choose not to really be the bold part here.  I am, occassionally, elsewhere.  
But I know, I know....better to use hushed tones in the holy echo chamber.
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« Reply #23491 on: May 11, 2023, 02:08:01 PM »
Echo chamber



 

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