When we get to something like this, I try to think on the structure of the thing.
There will always be a gap between what we know and what we don’t. People will often fill that gap with their feelings, whether positive, negative, attacking or defensive. We will never know much for certain. There will likely not be enough “proof” to satisfy those who are skeptical, as skepticism usually rises past most burdens of proof. The burden of “proof” is also not a standard in argument, unless it suits someone.
In this case, Urban either knew or he should’ve known, or made a point of not knowing, which conflicts with the should’ve part. Head coaches are responsible for a lot, they talk to a lot of folks, have a lot of folks tracking other folks. They can find out who goes to what bar, which kid is going home with too many girls, et al. This was an employee, and a close family friend. Coaches by nature are usually not hands of within their fiefdoms. It reminds me of the Dana Altman mess, where he said things that were sort of preposterous.
But Altman is still employed. My gut is Urban will weather it, games will start and it will go as it does, same as happened to Dana. On the other hand, if you told me in a month he wasn’t the coach, I wouldn’t be surprised.