He's trying to repair frayed feelings not blow up the bridge.
That's yet to be determined. I'm too old for drama in my life and might just blow up the bridge.
You know the old saying... Fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again.
under the assumption that the kids were already part of the deal, I think saying “ i’m going to see your kids“ is enough of their business that it can’t just count as your business. granted, I don’t know how much she jumped the gun, I don’t know how much the kids were supposed to be involved, etc.
In short, again without what I’m sure is a boatload of context, An aunt telling a mother she is excited to see nieces/nephews strikes me as communal business, or communal enough to avoid blowing everything up.
Normally I might agree. So there's context, built out of lack of trust.
She contacted my wife basically at noon Thursday. It pretty much came out of nowhere for us; we usually schedule well in advance. With what I know of the kids' schedule, my wife would have had to be going to pick up the kids from school by 1:30 PM. I very highly doubt that she could have physically seen my ex post-1:30.
Maybe they were just texting back and forth. Maybe because she was texting my ex at the time, she thought about me, my wife, and the kids, and decided to invite us, and completely innocently divulged that information to my ex...
Or... Maybe they were out to lunch together. Maybe they were cooking something up. They're both gossips, and were gossips when my ex and I were married. Was she across the table from my ex, texting my wife? Was I going to get ambushed by my ex showing up at this afternoon bbq because suddenly they all want to be a happy family? Am I just driving myself crazy with outlandish possibilities?
We just saw them with the kids 2 weeks ago at our house. So I doubt she was just overcome by excitement at seeing the kids and had to gush it out to someone. And the late timing of the invite was questionable. And I already don't trust her.
