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Of late, I've been pushing my ribs more towards what a BBQ aficionado might call overcooked, i.e. almost fall-off-the-bone tenderness. It's only so long that you can draw that KCBBQ "line in the sand" when everyone who eats ribs just love to gush about how tender they are.

So I've been doing it, and everyone loves it, and I'm not going to fight the masses any more lol.

Other than the guy who has a stand in the park on Saturdays at the market, I've yet to find any good Q around here.  Well, one place had decent brisket but the pulled pork was so so.  Another place has good chicken but the pulled pork is so so.  The market is only open late March to December, so I'm 2 weeks out less a couple.  I'll be glad to see him again.

The other dish I see a lot these days is "grits and something".  Shrimp and grits caught on back a few decades, OK, fine, but now I see grits and lobster and grits and BBQ and grits and pork belly.  One place even has grits and kimchee, which sounds weird to me.  I grew up with simple grits and butter.  All this other stuff is a really really cheap and easy thing to fix with some "stuff" thrown in to be cute.

my brother doesn't smoke often, so when he does it's usually for a group and he loads up the smoker with pork butt, sausage, pork ribs, and brisket

he says if he screws something up, there will be something that turns out pretty well

11 of the 14 schools in the conference permit the sale of alcohol at their football stadiums and in other athletic venues too. Of those schools, five sell beer -- and often wine -- to fans in general seating areas as long as they’re at least 21, according to a HuskerOnline survey of alcohol policies at Big Ten schools.

The other six schools limit beer and wine sales to suites and premium club-level seating.

https://nebraska.rivals.com/news/big-red-business-does-nu-need-beer-money-

certainly a huge loss

but, at least he lived life the right way and left a positive mark

After my ordeal of 2005, I took a look at my life and didn't much like what I was seeing.  Too much bitterness, too much negativity, too much not being a nice person.  I realized I could not change my past, or the past, but I could change my future.

I changed.  There is no reason for it.  I realized that when I was negative and sour and mean, it just hurt me, and maybe some others close to me, it helped nothing.  I'm still working on it, but the wife often tells me I'm too nice, which is a good thing I think.

We're all mortal.  We have a chance to influence and impact others for better or for worse.  We can be tempted by "the dark side" to try and pay back others for every small wrong, imagined or real, and spiral down into being a Negative Nancy, and it ends up harming us, not them.  My focus each day is to try and smile at strangers and say hello and make people feel valued, or at least noticed positively, whether they are a bum or the janitor or a neighbor or someone I pass while jogging (or they pass me usually).

Be nice to folks.  I sometimes get my meanness out on line, but I'm pretty nice in real life.  I'm working on the on line part.  Just be nice.

derned fine advice

I've tried to be a positive person most of my life, was raised that way and got my butt kicked if I was mean, rude, or otherwise negative

noticed in my 20s that there was far too much negativism in our world, decided I would try to be a positive source of energy

even when someone may flip me off in traffic, I smile and wave.  Doesn't seem to brighten their outlook often, but I don't let them bring me down to their negative level.