OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread

[OrangeAfroMan]

Hey Texas Tech, people are upset because you looked at the injunction ruling and shrugged and said, "I guess he should play."
No.
You aren't beholden to that ruling.  You can still not play him.  You can still leg him go.  

[847badgerfan]

I may have told this before, but I was the domicile parent, so my ex paid me monthly, not much, under $500 for three kids, I banked it all for their college.  Anyway, one month it didn't come, the next month it didn't come, so I mentioned it to her and she flew off the handle at me (as usual), it was somehow my fault.

So, I do nothing about it until I get a call from Children's Service harassing me for not paying child support.  I kindly inform the lady that I'm on the other end of this equation, she checks her papers, and says she'll call me back.  Whatever.

A week later my ex calls me all mad because a county sheriff showed up at her door saying he would arrest her if she didn't pay up, again, my fault.

The deal was she had changed checking accounts and not bothered to change the monthly payments.  Anyway, it got sorted out, I didn't go to jail.  I think I got the back pay, which I had asked to be reduced in the divorce because I thought it was way too much.  I think it was supposed to be $1500 or so a month, for three kids, while I was making a pretty nice salary.  Crazy I know.

When my wife divorced in 1994, her ex (loser) was ordered to pay $400/month for two kids.


When she married me ("moneybags", as I was termed by loser), he stopped paying anything.

My wife let it go, which I think was (and still is) the wrong decision. The loser won. Not good.

Grumpy.

[MikeDeTiger]

When my wife divorced in 1994, her ex (loser) was ordered to pay $400/month for two kids.


When she married me ("moneybags", as I was termed by loser), he stopped paying anything.

My wife let it go, which I think was (and still is) the wrong decision. The loser won. Not good.

Grumpy.

You wouldn't believe how many times I've heard that same story.

Or maybe you would.  

Anecdotally speaking, it seems to be pretty common for losers to quit paying court-ordered monthly sums when the woman remarries, and for the woman to decide not to fight it.  

I think in some cases they payer doesn't have a choice, court-ordered child-support (alimony is pretty rare in Texas, I gather) is taken directly out of paychecks and the person doesn't have the option of not paying.  But I don't know in what cases that's applied, or how common that is.  

[bayareabadger]

When my wife divorced in 1994, her ex (loser) was ordered to pay $400/month for two kids.


When she married me ("moneybags", as I was termed by loser), he stopped paying anything.

My wife let it go, which I think was (and still is) the wrong decision. The loser won. Not good.

Grumpy.

I’ve often thought of you as Money Bags.

I think I can see both sides. On the one hand, screw that guy and his shitbird approach to parenting. 

OTOH, a lot of legal proceedings lead to a “both sides lose” energy, especially in divorce cases. Sometimes the best win is not letting the shitbird mess with your life. 

[847badgerfan]

I often think of others as "moneybags".

(I don't give a rip about the "...". crap)

[FearlessF]

"Your revolution is over, Mr. Lebowski! Condolences! The bums lost! My advice is to do what your parents did; get a job, sir. The bums will always lose!"

[bayareabadger]

I often think of others as "moneybags".

(I don't give a rip about the "...". crap)

The …?

[FearlessF]

I could have taken my Ex to court to reduce my child support payments to her but decided $260 a month for 2 daughters wasn't enuff to worry about

would have caused more trouble than it was worth

[847badgerfan]

The …?

Punctuation stuff.

[bayareabadger]

That’s a space I know not much about, but ended up in two convos about this sort of thing. 

In one, husband cheated and was paying for wife’s housing until the kids were in their late 20s? Something happened that ended it and the mom was pissed. In another, the sum was generous and the father was like “can we reduce it as our child is in their mid-30?” And this was met with resistance as the funds were a nice chunk of the mom’s income. 

[betarhoalphadelta]

At least I don't have that. Each kid ends at 18 or graduated HS, whichever is later, but cannot extend beyond the 19th birthday. 

The one that grates on me is the alimony. That has no defined end date. I was smart enough to get a clause put in that if she cohabitates for 12 months or longer (w/o getting married) it ends, and it obviously ends if she gets remarried. But it's been 10 years and she seems to be showing no signs of doing either--and at her age the options are likely not quite as plentiful as they might have been 10 years ago.

In retrospect, I should have gotten a clause put in that alimony can't go any further than the last child support payment. She probably would have agreed to it because with her ego and thinking she was hot shit, she would have thought there was NO chance she wouldn't be hooked up with someone obviously far better than me by now...

[MikeDeTiger]

At least I don't have that. Each kid ends at 18 or graduated HS, whichever is later, but cannot extend beyond the 19th birthday.

The one that grates on me is the alimony. That has no defined end date. I was smart enough to get a clause put in that if she cohabitates for 12 months or longer (w/o getting married) it ends, and it obviously ends if she gets remarried. But it's been 10 years and she seems to be showing no signs of doing either--and at her age the options are likely not quite as plentiful as they might have been 10 years ago.

In retrospect, I should have gotten a clause put in that alimony can't go any further than the last child support payment. She probably would have agreed to it because with her ego and thinking she was hot shit, she would have thought there was NO chance she wouldn't be hooked up with someone obviously far better than me by now...

I don't know if we have any TX-based lawyers here, but I want to say that alimony is rare in this state.  It is a thing, but I think it's hard to meet the requirements for it.  Unless I'm mistaken, the state courts are big on child-support, and not big on paying somebody not to be your wife.  

[betarhoalphadelta]

I don't know if we have any TX-based lawyers here, but I want to say that alimony is rare in this state.  It is a thing, but I think it's hard to meet the requirements for it.  Unless I'm mistaken, the state courts are big on child-support, and not big on paying somebody not to be your wife. 

TX != CA

[jgvol]

I can't imagine why men absolutely detest the family court system?

Anyone have any ideas.........?

I won't go through my entire horror story but this tiny fragment should clue you all in.

My sons both came to live with me at 14 years old, and my ex wife demanded that she pay me nothing (which she never did), and that in fact, I should still pay her child support even though I was the custodial parent.  Chew on that.....