I had two daughters that both played multiple sports in HS. Both were state champion power lifters, played volleyball and ran track. The oldest was an all state sprinter her junior and senior year. She was also the kind of person that wanted to kick your ass if it was a competition weather it be sprinting or playing checkers.
My youngest daughter was actually stronger than her older sister, but only won the state power lifting title once compared to my oldest that won all four years (different weight classes). The youngest was also a better volleyball player than the older but did not have the same success in track. My youngest was more even keeled playing sports. While she desperately wanted to win, when the game was over, she was right back to the same, kind hearted girl as she was prior to the game. She was more likely to strike up conversation with the other team in an attempt to make friends were my older would just have to walk away to keep from fighting.
My oldest also got into trouble with her volleyball coach her junior year as she was getting on other players for being out of position and not hustling during play. The VB coach seemed that she just wanted the girls to be pretty and nice and playing VB was secondary. It caused my oldest to not want to play her senior year until the school hired a new coach.
As a parent, it was hard watching this unfold. I wanted to stick up for my daughter to the coach, but didn't want to be "that guy" that was the one yelling and making a fool of themselves as I was also a member of the School Board. So I mostly sat in silence during the games. I did approach the AD about the coaches attitude, but I think it mostly fell on deaf ears.
Both girls also played JO VB which meant that they were playing on teams full of girls that were very good and played to win. They had the most fun there.
From all of this I came the conclusion that in school sports, and especially at small schools such as the ones my kids attended, girls took a different attitude towards games than the boys did. A lot of girls just wanted to be part of the team, wear the uniform and hang with the other girls. Winning was secondary to that. It's been 15 years since my oldest graduated HS and I see some of her former teammates from time to time. Most of them are very well adjusted, successful and appear to be happily married. So in the end, did their attitudes toward sports really matter? I don't think so.