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FearlessF

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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1764 on: June 11, 2026, 11:15:25 AM »
that's how it went for me

daughters lived with me and I paid her
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« Reply #1765 on: June 11, 2026, 11:27:15 AM »
At least I don't have that. Each kid ends at 18 or graduated HS, whichever is later, but cannot extend beyond the 19th birthday.

The one that grates on me is the alimony. That has no defined end date. I was smart enough to get a clause put in that if she cohabitates for 12 months or longer (w/o getting married) it ends, and it obviously ends if she gets remarried. But it's been 10 years and she seems to be showing no signs of doing either--and at her age the options are likely not quite as plentiful as they might have been 10 years ago.

In retrospect, I should have gotten a clause put in that alimony can't go any further than the last child support payment. She probably would have agreed to it because with her ego and thinking she was hot shit, she would have thought there was NO chance she wouldn't be hooked up with someone obviously far better than me by now...

Hire a great lawyer and go back at it. I've seen it done, although not in != Cali.
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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1766 on: June 11, 2026, 11:29:37 AM »
TX != CA

Take this with a grain of salt....it's from ChatGPT:


Yes—Texas is generally considered one of the more restrictive states when it comes to court-ordered alimony (called spousal maintenance in Texas). The reputation is largely accurate.
Why alimony is less common in Texas
Texas starts from the presumption that a divorcing spouse should become self-supporting, and courts can only award spousal maintenance in specific circumstances. A spouse usually must show both:
  • They cannot meet their "minimum reasonable needs" after the divorce; and
  • One of several statutory eligibility requirements applies. (TexasLawHelp.org)
Common qualifying situations include:
  • The marriage lasted at least 10 years and the spouse seeking maintenance cannot earn enough to meet basic needs.
  • The paying spouse committed certain family-violence offenses.
  • The spouse seeking maintenance has a disability.
  • The spouse is caring for a child with a disability that prevents full-time employment. (TexasLawHelp.org)
Even when maintenance is awarded, Texas typically limits both the amount and duration. Courts are instructed to order it for the shortest reasonable period necessary, and statutory maximum durations are generally 5, 7, or 10 years depending on the length of the marriage, with some exceptions for disability cases. (Texas.Public.Law)
Compared with states where long-term or permanent alimony is more common, Texas courts have less discretion and stricter eligibility rules. So the perception that alimony is harder to obtain in Texas is largely true.

Child support: paycheck withholding or monthly payments?
In Texas, income withholding from wages is the norm, not the exception.
When a child-support order is entered, the court typically issues an income withholding order directing the employer to deduct support from the paying parent's paycheck and send it through the state child-support system. This is often what people informally call "wage garnishment." (Texas Legislature Online)
So in many cases the paying parent:
  • Does not manually write a check each month.
  • Sees child support automatically deducted from each paycheck.
  • Receives pay stubs showing the withholding amount.
There are situations where a parent pays directly through the state's payment portal or other approved methods, but payroll withholding is extremely common and is generally the default approach. (Texas Legislature Online)



Then it ended by saying "If you tell me how many years you were married (for example, a marriage of 5 years, 15 years, stay-at-home spouse, large income difference, children involted, etc.), I can give you a much more realistic assessment of how likely maintenance and child support would be."  

F off, ChatGPT.  I'm not getting divorced.  



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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1767 on: June 11, 2026, 12:00:10 PM »
It looks like California has 10 years as a similar metric. If it’s less than 10 years, it’s pretty simple. If it’s more than that, it appears to be kind of a running thing that can be adjusted.

One has to wonder if alimony eventually disappears as a thing, as we move farther away from the husband-as-fulltime-breadwinner eras.

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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1768 on: June 11, 2026, 12:37:09 PM »
I have a client that's in love with Chat GPT using it to tell me how much child support he should be paying.

We are forced to use Bradley Software to calculate it here.  I had to just pay $576 for the license for one year.  Doesn't matter what AI says.

Back in the day, I wrote Winged Helmet to see if he was interested in putting something together to compete with the monopoly Bradley has, since his whole empire was built on Bakery Software.  I guess he was a businessman and too busy for that shit, too.

Maintenance is getting more common here.  I hate it, but that's the way of the world, this neck of the woods, anyway.

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« Reply #1769 on: June 11, 2026, 01:05:36 PM »
my Ex figured out that if she had been married to me for 10 years she could have benefited from my Social Security

almost made it 9 years - I laughed and reminded her that she was the one that broke up the marriage
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« Reply #1770 on: June 11, 2026, 01:07:40 PM »
I have a client that's in love with Chat GPT using it to tell me how much child support he should be paying.

We are forced to use Bradley Software to calculate it here.  I had to just pay $576 for the license for one year.  Doesn't matter what AI says.

Back in the day, I wrote Winged Helmet to see if he was interested in putting something together to compete with the monopoly Bradley has, since his whole empire was built on Bakery Software.  I guess he was a businessman and too busy for that shit, too.

Maintenance is getting more common here.  I hate it, but that's the way of the world, this neck of the woods, anyway.
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« Reply #1771 on: June 11, 2026, 01:10:44 PM »
my Ex figured out that if she had been married to me for 10 years she could have benefited from my Social Security

almost made it 9 years - I laughed and reminded her that she was the one that broke up the marriage
My wife was married for 9 years and 10 months.

Loser loses.
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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1772 on: June 11, 2026, 01:37:16 PM »
My wife's ex made ~$350k/yr for the last several years of their marriage.  Now he owns a company that contracts with all the plants around here and I surmise he is likely a multi-millionaire.  

Financially speaking, I'm the loser out of her two hubbys.  

He is a weird dude.  

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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1773 on: June 11, 2026, 02:54:43 PM »
Are you a lawyer? Or do you just work somewhere else in the space?
Guilty re the first question.

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Re: OT - Grumpy Old Man Thread
« Reply #1774 on: Today at 12:12:42 PM »
I must say that for as much as my Millennial Generation likes to rip on our parent's Boomer Generation, all credit to Boomer men for having mature interests: golfing, wineries, classic rock, country clubs, breweries, yacht clubs, motorbikes, traveling Europe, tailgating, rifles…

Now take the accepted interests of my generation. The guy in the picture below is roughly my age – a millennial who is a few years older than myself. Lately he’s been crashing out about himself on his YouTube channel, and without labeling it so, hitting a mid-life crisis. So how is this guy coping with his mid-life crisis? Buying a sports car? Carrying on an affair with a waitress at a country club? Signing up for a Blue Origin flight? Surfing? He’s dropping thousands of dollars on Pokemon and Magic the Gathering cards, hoping to find rare cards while he films himself unboxing the latest decks of cards he’s bought:

I look at my own adult interest and can credit myself with fostering the more mature interests of my older generation: watching sports, going to live events, road trips, wine club memberships, sports bars, and reading mid-century novels.

I bring this up because last weekend, while catching up with two college buddies who’ve remained friends largely by joining in with me on those very interests – road trips, sports bars, reading similar books – and it turns out they’re both avid collectors of Pokémon and Magic the Gathering. It was something about them I really hadn’t paid attention to.

I related their card collecting interest to what I was thinking about back in March: Millennials and Gen Zers don’t have the wealth to fund Boomer generation interests of golfing, yacht clubs, casinos, motorbiking, traveling Europe, etc. Instead, they stick to the less expensive interests drawn from their youth, which also allows them to draw on their fix for nostalgia. Even with the collectible value of Pokémon Cards surging to the point of pricing out beginners, many Millennials have childhood collections that allow them to enter the trading frenzy. However, it turns out collecting Pokémon Cards has become very expensive. Pokémon Cards have become an addiction. For the last few years newly released Pokémon product lines can’t meet demand purchasing demands.

Where Boomers got their gambling fix at the casino, Millennials and Gen Z get their fix by opening Pokémon booster packs – from Medium: “Pack Addiction: How Pokémon Cards Hijack Your Brain’s Reward System.” I had no idea the Pokémon card market was such a mania these past few years – from IGN: “10 Billion Pokémon Cards Were Printed Last Year — and It Still Wasn't Enough to Stop Shortages and Scalping.


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« Reply #1775 on: Today at 12:18:29 PM »
Yeah it's about time for millennials to realize they're now old.  There are two generations of youth behind them.  Millennial culture is no longer youth culture, and it hasn't been for quite a while.


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« Reply #1776 on: Today at 12:20:42 PM »
Gen Z is generally F'd up.
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« Reply #1777 on: Today at 12:37:18 PM »
My Gen Z kids are pretty awesome.  

Some of their peers...

 

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