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I just thought of something-- can anyone else name Georgia's last non-conference loss?

Smoked prime rib from an out-of-region source.


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Cancer sucks. A friend of mine from work has been battling this since October, and now they’re out of options.

I’m going up to see him today, but as I understand it he’s out of it. I have no idea how to handle this.

Short answer: I don't know how to handle it either.

However, no one else does. What I've gleaned is that, since it's tough to know how to handle it, most people avoid interacting. Bless you for giving it your best.
Keep in mind that, unless you're an ultra-high-end oncologist, you probably can't offer any solutions or hope. Stay away from the "look on the bright side" stuff, since there likely isn't one. Stay present, let them talk all they want to, and just do your best to sympathize. Pretending to understand isn't realistic. Just be there for your friend.

This is a tough trip that you could probably make a lame excuse to avoid. Thank you for sticking it out. The only thing you can do now is be a friend. Do that.

Yeah cancer sucks.

You're doing a good thing by visiting, even if he's not awake and aware.  I still believe that it matters.

me too

I did the same thing a few years back for a best friend

I'd rather go visit the living in that state than attend the funeral

For me it has ended up being both, but that's the way of things.

When my close friend Denise (who was Bald Greg's wife for those who have met them at the tailgate party) passed away from cancer, we had about a month where we knew it was inevitable, and she was lucid and in decent spirits for the first 2.5 weeks.  The last 1.5 weeks she was pretty out of it, and it was just awful, but basically Bald Greg threw open the house and we stopped by every day and spent entire weekends there.  About 20 of us-- her family and closest friends-- were all there when she passed, because early that day the hospice nurse predicted the time it would happen to about the half-hour.  That was tough, but I'm glad we were all there to support Greg and the kids who we treat as essentially our own.

But then, the funeral was even tougher.

For me it has ended up being both, but that's the way of things.


But then, the funeral was even tougher.

yup, I went to his funeral too.
It was tougher

one of the few funerals I've attended lately

I will attend a funeral only if I'm sure someone in the family will be wondering why I'm not there.
If I think I won't be missed - I'll be missed

Ha!  Indeed.

A dry martini could also work there.

9 days and counting for me (I started on the 3rd, since the 2nd was still technically vacation/holiday for me and my family)