I know you can't say but I'm going to guess it is either Guinea or Ivory Coast.
One of those yes. But none of those are the nation we’re spending the most time in. Not to be annoyingly secretive but I’m supposed to be interviewed at the end of this trip and I want to be able to say I didn’t reveal whereabouts.
Yesterday our driver (Kobi) arranges for us a visit to shopping market. To keep the hustlers at bay, Kobi connects us with a local guide name Yemi to mediate pricing the various merchandise we eventually buy.
On the drive there, the Know-It-All among our group (always wearing loud Hawaiian shirts) obnoxiously lectures us on “standing our ground” when haggling.
“Whatever they ask you better talk their offer down to half that amount or walk away,” he demands.
Our group draws immediate attention not just in the market, but anytime we’re off the hotel property. That attention quickly turns to getting hustled for money, solicited for whatever the street venders might be hawking, and potentially getting surrounded by marginal crowds. We can’t go anywhere.
So it’s helpful to have Yemi mediate our market experience. Several of us know what we’re here to buy, including myself: a stack of postcards, an Africa-themed painting small enough to fit in my luggage, and a carved Christian cross of the kind that’s posted on the walls of many businesses and homes. I avoid haggling, willingly (over)paying their initially offers at a total of $60 in their currency.
As the lady among us takes the most time shopping, ultimately spending about $150 worth on dresses, the Know-It-All makes an obnoxious jerk of himself by aggressively haggling to the point of insulting shop owners.
“It’s ok to let yourself get ripped off,” I tell him while the lady among us is fitted for dresses.
“It’s not even about saving money. It’s about winning the interaction!” the Know-It-All insists.
“I don’t think winning is the polite approach here,” I try to reason.
Yemi walks over, wanting to renegotiate items that the Know-It-All walked away from. The Know-It-All carries on his clownish haggling even more, blind to the better deals he’s offered. Yemi is as insulted as the shop owners. Resentment calms when, out of site, I tip Yemi ($15) for guiding us through the market.
On the ride back, passing by sights of overwhelming street poverty, it’s my turn to lecture. I emphasize to the Know-It-All that however much he thought he was getting overcharged is worth gladly (over)paying, like I did, because that dollar difference goes miles further here in the Third World than however much is saved in his First World. I hold off telling him how clueless, ungenerous, and unappreciative he comes across.
The Market:
