To close the loop, since I know everyone is waiting with bated breath...
The wife dropped off her leased 328i on Tuesday. We accelerated it because at her pre-return lease inspection, they basically said one of her tires had about 100-200 miles before it would be below the level at which she'd have to buy a new one. So we said "okay, how does Tuesday sound to return it?" Got out without that cost.
A friend of mine owns a Lexus dealership here locally, so I had been asking him about specific CPO RX 350 and NX200t models that he had on his lot that had all the options we wanted. Went by last night, the wife fell in love with the RX, and now it's ours.
Wife is freaked that the payment is >2x the lease payment on her Bimmer, but that's what happens when you buy a vehicle instead of "rent" it lol...