I guess I was lucky in the sense that almost all of my jobs since high school were either hospital or other medical settings where I wore scrubs, or fast - food places where I had to wear black jeans and the uniform top. I did spend five years working for the state and it was business casual there so I wore slacks and a nice top or sweater. Church was the only place I wore a dress or skirt and I can still remember the hullabaloo when my grandmother first wore dress slacks to church in the 90's.
I don't even own a black dress anymore and the last funeral I attended was my father's in 2011 (in December) so it was slacks and a dark sweater which nobody could see anyway at the graveside since we were all bundled up in winter gear. I still felt guilty about not wearing a black dress. Just the way I raised - dresses for church and weddings / funerals.
Now that I am retired, I only own jeans and t-shirts with some sweaters or sweatshirts. You all have reminded me that I need to go get new clothes to wear when we go out for our anniversary dinner; although after 33 years, my hubby would faint if I wore a dress, lol. Besides, then I'd have to buy new shoes, earrings, etc. Cheaper to stay home and cook, lol.
you remind me of a very valuable lesson i learned about $15k ago...
My wife an I aren't wealthy... we're not affluent... we are as middle class as they come... however, when we want something we can generally get it without much problem or argument- she trusts me and i trust her, and if she spends it isn't a big deal at all... until one day.
she asked me one evening if i minded her buying new dishes... i thought it a strange question, but then recalled seeing the price on some of those sets, so i braced myself and asked how much? She told me and it wasn't shocking at all.... so I told her "babes, if that's what you want...." with authority and if i was telling her to buy a vacation home in Aspen or something... little did I know.
new dishes require matching cabinets... new cabinets require matching counter tops.. new granite counter tops require matching flooring... flooring requires matching wall paint..
I asked her if she maybe should have warned me about the crew who showed up to do this (and who destroyed the ceramic tile floor i spent weekends and nights of an entire winter of my single life installing, along with the ceramic counters) and she looks me dead in the eye, pausing only slightly from whatever she was doing, and says matter-of-factly "you said I could get new dishes"....
I revisited this dynamic a few weeks later when i asked her if she minded "can i get a new serpentine belt for the truck?"... but it didn't work the same in reverse... she promptly asked "what, are you building another engine or something?".... truth is i was only intent on installing a whipple twin screw supercharger, but... it was proof of the guise in my opinion...
by the way, it's dang fine to see you lady's around again!!!!!