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Topic: You Know What I Hate....?

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utee94

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Re: You Know What I Hate....?
« Reply #350 on: March 03, 2018, 10:17:32 AM »
Boiling isn't a bad thing.  But it can prevent you from figuring out the things you need to figure out, in order to find someone that you can live with for the long haul.

I dated a lot of batsh*t crazy before I dated my i s c & a aggie wife.  There was the girl who stole all my stuff for two years, finally gave it back the night I pulled a utee on her, and then tried to hook up with me a couple years later after she'd married a cop.

There was the girl who was a practicing wiccan and tried to cast a fertility spell on me while we were dating.

There was the girl who cheated on me with my best friend, broke up with me to be with him, and then cheated on him with me.

There were two different vegans who tried to convert me to their ways.  One of them finally got mad enough at me that she threw my Conan's pizza with extra pepperoni on the ground.  That was the end of that, I can assure you.

Those were all girls for dating.  They were not girls for marrying, but it took time to discover that.  It's all about the choices we make.  And when things are boiling, decision-making can be compromised and bad choices can result.


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« Reply #351 on: March 03, 2018, 11:13:14 AM »
I applaud and envy those men that find and keep a "good" woman

some say it's not too late for me, but I don't agree
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« Reply #352 on: March 04, 2018, 02:11:46 PM »
batshit crazy is fun- until the crazy turns toward you... 

my brother, whom i rarely agree with, did something to a gal i thought detestable- until.... anyway, he went to Disney with this lady, but showed up earlier than the condo would allow- so they decided to go get groceries while they waited.. once in the grocery store, she went off on him.... he left her there and drove all the way home (12 hours) and never spoke to her again.  

i thought that thin skinned and rude.... until:

i took a gal to St Croix.. and she went off on me on a resorts beach with all these people watching... for ten solid minutes she screamed at me with her mouth not an inch from my head... so.. when she stopped to catch her breath, I got up and informed her 'she better go with me to the airport to get her own rental car, as the one we had is in my name and "i'm turning it in" '... she just sat back down... i stopped by the house to pick up my two cases of cruzan rum cream, and went to the airport... i paid $1500 for the next bird out of there- and was in Atlanta within a few hours... home within 12... never saw that crazy bimbo again- though we had some great times, she was drama... i knew that to begin with.  and knowing that, knew there was limited future- and wasn't the least bit upset over the ordeal (except for that $1500)... 

i saw where my older brother was coming from, then, and held nothing against him for that incident of his.  

lesson learned is: some are for fun, some are to be left alone entirely, and some are the ones you put on the shelf like a fine bottle of bourbon to be saved for better times.  My current wife is the latter, that finally came off the shelf six years ago.  Dating her, I knew where it would head from the beginning- so i avoided it until i couldn't anymore.  

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« Reply #353 on: March 06, 2018, 03:57:55 PM »
My my, hey hey ... it's better to burn out, than to fade away

Well as much as I appreciated the Neil Young quote from Drewski, my opinion runs more along the lines of a recent U2 song, which says

Love and love is all we have left
The only thing that can be kept
Love is all we have left


So, what gravitated me toward the woman who became my wife, and really my life, is not that she's beautiful, even though by any measure she is, and not because she's brainy, even though she carried the flag in her K-12 classes in Argentina (which the top student in the class does there), is that we have the same sense of humor.  We laugh at the same jokes, have an overall similar philosophy of life, have the same sense of humor, see politics roughly the same, laugh at the same jokes, see religion more or less the same, and, oh yeah, we laugh together.  At the same stuff.

First date.  The movie was My Life as a Dog which is a Swedish drama about a 12 year old boy who has rotten luck, but keeps telling himself it could be worse, he could be Laika, the poor dog who died when the Soviets sent her into space in Sputnik 2. 

We both laughed a lot during this movie.  And we noticed that no one else was laughing quite a few times when we were, and honestly some of it was even uncontrolled laughter on both our parts.  I think it was then we knew we were right for each other.  The rest (5 years of dating, family acceptance across some pretty high cultural barriers on both sides, marriage into the Catholic church even though I grew up protestant, etc) was just a big oh yeah sure we can manage all that.  Because we laugh together.

And we still do.  I'm just off the phone from her after another 40 min conversation while I was in the car, via bluetooth.

So, forget all the other factors, in my opinion - if you like the same stuff, get the same joke, laugh together when others are kind of scratching their heads and saying sure whatever floats your boat, now, then you'll still be doing it 30 years later.

My 2 cents

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« Reply #354 on: March 06, 2018, 09:45:33 PM »
It does make sense, Cousin Fred, that you'd relate so closely to a communist dog.  


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« Reply #355 on: March 06, 2018, 09:50:44 PM »
Which brings me to another "You Know What I Hate?"

You know what I hate?

I hate seeing some of my friends, on social media, reduce themselves to identity politics yammering about this most recent thing or that most recent thing.  Most of them, I'd expect to be way smarter than succumbing to whatever talking points "their side" chooses to push this week, or month, or year.  Yet they do it anyway.

Before all the democrats were affronted by Trump's fascism or whatever their demagogues have instructed them to label it, it was the republicans that were affronted by Obama's socialism or whatever their demagogues had instructed them to label it.

Neither of those parties represents even a fraction of my beliefs, and I'm affronted by all of their complete buffoonery.  But I sure don't yap about it on social media.  They can all go suck a duck, I say.



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« Reply #356 on: March 06, 2018, 11:44:03 PM »
It does make sense, Cousin Fred, that you'd relate so closely to a communist dog.  


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« Reply #357 on: March 07, 2018, 12:39:55 AM »

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« Reply #358 on: March 07, 2018, 08:07:23 AM »
you do realize, @utee94 , that the term 'identity politics' is nothing more than a term injected by either side when they want to disarm people and undermine their position, and nothing more, right?  :57:


in all seriousness, though, there is but one group that is benefiting from the chasm between ideologies, and that's the media and entertainment industry. and yeah, they're the same group so i didn't say 'two groups'.   the division isn't good, and the chasm is only for fools to fall into anyway. 

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« Reply #359 on: March 07, 2018, 08:19:58 AM »
Identity politics is an unfortunate label to be sure, but sadly, an apt one.  I have no idea why smart people allow themselves to be wrapped up in theater, rather than critical thinking.  

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« Reply #360 on: March 07, 2018, 09:19:35 AM »
What scares the hell out of me is the dogma being spewed forth by university profs to their students

and this even extends to high school
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« Reply #361 on: March 07, 2018, 10:19:39 AM »
My karma ran over your dogma.

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« Reply #362 on: March 07, 2018, 10:22:37 AM »
I liked Cousin Fred's post.

Having worked in Government for over 30 years, I have come to believe most politics are about sleight of hand.

Let's say you feel really strongly about issue X so you support a candidate or a party that seems to be just as passionate about that issue as you are.

But are they?

Odds are, if elected, they won't do much if anything to address or resolve issue X because as long as it is an issue and they have compelling rhetoric, they have your vote and the vote of others who share your concerns.

Instead they'll bring up issue Z to lure more gullible voters because they really don't care about any of the issues they pretend they care about.

They really about protecting the very narrow interests of their biggest donors.

Sorry.

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« Reply #363 on: March 07, 2018, 12:09:00 PM »
My karma ran over your dogma.
well the thing about karma is it will sometimes bite you in the ass
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