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Topic: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness

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ELA

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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2020, 08:37:13 PM »
My wife reluctantly pulled me into foster parenthood about a year ago.  We've got two boys, and she wanted a third, I didn't, that was the compromise.  I was worried it was a back door way to adopt a third, which I immediately told the agency it wasn't, she I think still wanted to.  She's adopted herself.

In a crazy set of circumstances a baby was born in a toilet near the hospital, when the mother fled due to being high, a parole violation.  We got a call.  My wife visited her every day in the hospital because she was two months premature.  But amazingly, she was healthy.  No health problems, no signs of withdrawal from her user mom.  She was just small.

We brought her home 2 weeks later, and she won me over.  In a lot of ways our bond was closer than with my two biological sons.  I was wrong, we wanted to adopt her.  Her mother subsequently died of an OD, and father had a lengthy criminal history.  They put up a non family member/friend, but there was no family option.  We got a notice on Tuesday, after 6 months, that the state finally agreed with her guardian ad litem that the best thing for her was to move forward with adoption.  On Wednesday, the judge disagreed, and awarded immediate custody to the family friend.  No transition period.  We had 5 minutes to say goodbye.

The system sucks.  I just have to hope it's for the best.  The woman is a good mother.  We've met her, we've met her kids, I think she'll be ok.  But damn, that was my daughter, and it hurts.  We are handing over all of the clothes we bought her except her Christmas dress and the MSU cheerleader outfit she hadn't grown into yet.

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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #15 on: January 18, 2020, 09:24:09 PM »
Damn ELA, that's a lot to go through in such a tight window.   I admire your resolve.  You are also right about the system.   The most complicated, heartbreaking events transpire in a family/children's court.  Those are very traumatic places to be.

I wish you and your family well during this time. 

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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #16 on: January 19, 2020, 09:07:08 AM »
Hat's off to you ELA. As an adopted kid myself, I couldn't imagine being taken away from my parents, no matter the age.

Are you going to try again?
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #17 on: January 19, 2020, 09:49:30 AM »
wow, that's difficult.  Life isn't always easy.
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #18 on: January 19, 2020, 09:57:35 AM »
Really sorry to hear that AAA.  I can't imagine the heartbreak.  You and your wife are still excellent people for helping in the way you did.

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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #19 on: January 19, 2020, 10:36:12 AM »
Really sorry to hear that AAA.  I can't imagine the heartbreak.  You and your wife are still excellent people for helping in the way you did.
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #20 on: January 19, 2020, 12:45:09 PM »
What you did was a blessing, ELA, even if you don't get to bear the fruits of it.
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #21 on: January 19, 2020, 02:31:21 PM »
The system sucks.  I just have to hope it's for the best.  The woman is a good mother.  We've met her, we've met her kids, I think she'll be ok.  But damn, that was my daughter, and it hurts.  We are handing over all of the clothes we bought her except her Christmas dress and the MSU cheerleader outfit she hadn't grown into yet.
Sorry to hear this!No good deed goes unpunished as they say.You took the high road and handled it better than reasonably could be expected.Just wondering where were these folks months back.I hope everything works out well for the kid.The ELAs did good
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #22 on: January 19, 2020, 02:42:19 PM »
On a positive note, Mrs. 847 and I just signed the contract to purchase our new home in Florida.

We are very happy, on this 10 degree (F) January day.
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #23 on: January 19, 2020, 03:35:09 PM »
Printing and cutting, printing and cutting, printing and cutting...
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #24 on: January 19, 2020, 03:35:26 PM »
On a positive note, Mrs. 847 and I just signed the contract to purchase our new home in Florida.

We are very happy, on this 10 degree (F) January day.
Where at?
“The Swamp is where Gators live.  We feel comfortable there, but we hope our opponents feel tentative. A swamp is hot and sticky and can be dangerous." - Steve Spurrier

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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #25 on: January 19, 2020, 03:38:28 PM »
Point A:  there is a massive need for adoptions
Point B:  what happened to ELA
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #26 on: January 19, 2020, 04:03:16 PM »
Where at?
Burnt Store Marina, between Punta Gorda and Fort Myers. Straight shot out from there to the Boca Grande pass. About 10 miles or so. Next step is to buy the fishing boat. Looking at Grady-White for now, or something similar.
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Re: 2020 Offseason Stream of Unconciousness
« Reply #27 on: January 19, 2020, 04:28:22 PM »
Gradys are fine vessels
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