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Topic: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness

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ELA

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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2019, 10:48:53 AM »
this is the reason you stay close to the in-laws
We have one set close, but they usually go out themselves on Saturday nights.  We have 3 babysitters lined up, but I'd say it 50/50 on whether any one of them is available.

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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #15 on: January 18, 2019, 10:54:34 AM »
Well, we mostly always cooked at home and had guests, or we were at the harbor. I guess our lifestyle made it easier in that regard. That, and every-other-weekend the kids were not with us...
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #16 on: January 18, 2019, 10:59:58 AM »
We have one set close, but they usually go out themselves on Saturday nights.  We have 3 babysitters lined up, but I'd say it 50/50 on whether any one of them is available.
We never really relied on parents (mine) to watch the kids. Hers are not anywhere near where we live. Anyway, they raised their own already and it was their time. Of course, they would do it if asked, and do it happily. I just chose to not go there often.

Interestingly enough, the youngest son is getting married this summer (SUMMER DAMMIT!!!). Aside from the fat check I had to write, I'm happy for him and I like his choice (other than her parents have no money). Anyway, the fiancé already had a conversation with Mrs. 847 about having kids and babysitting and all that. Mrs. 847 subscribes to my philosophy on this. We are not babysitters. This is our time now. Sorry.
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #17 on: January 18, 2019, 11:29:29 AM »
My father didn't want to be a babysitter, but when is friend, Grandma Sherry was around she loved spending time with my daughters.  So that happened often.

My mother-in-law also cherished time with the girls and was eager to take them anytime she wasn't busy.

We didn't put a burden on either of them.  Always their choice.  I'd happily pay a babysitter or simply stay home.

now paying a babysitter and then have her steal me blind was not enjoyable.
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #18 on: January 18, 2019, 12:06:49 PM »
Kids make it even harder.  Then you can pretty much only have other friends that have kids...of a similar age, for at least a little while.

Well, we mostly always cooked at home and had guests, or we were at the harbor. I guess our lifestyle made it easier in that regard. That, and every-other-weekend the kids were not with us...
Yep. That's one of the advantages of divorce. The most famous of which is never having to live with that awful woman again. But only slightly well-known is this: you actually have the freedom of a non-parent roughly half the time. 

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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #19 on: January 18, 2019, 12:10:22 PM »
2/14 of the time was more like it, for us. Dood was/is a total asshole.
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #20 on: January 18, 2019, 12:13:14 PM »
So, anyone have any vacations planned for this year? We've got a few coming up. Have some weekend visits to Florida in February and March set up, just to get the heck out of here and warm up.
I think this year we're having "little" getaways since we hit Europe last year, with our next international vacation planned for 2020. 
But there's already a lot of little ones. We spent New Year's in Paso Robles. Doing Santa Barbara & Cambria this weekend over the holiday. Back to Paso Robles in March, followed by a trip to AZ for a wedding. The beginning of May is the Southern California Homebrew Festival, so that's more of a little local "RV camping" trip. June we'll be going to Vegas to see Jerry Seinfeld live. September we're going to go to Chicago/West Laf/Indianapolis to show my bride where I grew up [and see a Cubs game], where I went to school [and see the TCU@Purdue game], and see our friends that just moved to Indy. And then we already know we'll be taking the kids up to Oregon for a week around Thanksgiving.
And I'm sure we'll fill in various little trips here and there. 

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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #21 on: January 18, 2019, 12:25:35 PM »
We just returned from Cabo, which is a pretty nice place to visit in January. Rented a 5BR house with 4 other couples. The weather was perfect. Of course, I got the flu half way through the vacation, so that was a major suck. I'm just now finally getting past it.
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #22 on: January 18, 2019, 12:43:52 PM »
get a flu shot

ya damn near died in Lincoln one weekend a decade ago
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #23 on: January 18, 2019, 12:58:25 PM »
I did get the shot. I drank my way through that weekend. Can't do that anymore...
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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #24 on: January 18, 2019, 01:00:23 PM »
I don’t know how people with kids manage without having family close by.  I mean, I’m sure you do but we have always had family close to help us with our kids and I can’t imagine not having that.  My kids never went to daycare or spent an evening with a babysitter that wasn’t a blood relative.

There might be an argument whether that is good or bad but it always put my mind at ease knowing who was taking care of them.  But we also paid the family members for watching them so we never felt like we were taking advantage of them.  It was a win-win.  We had the peace of mind of knowing someone was watching our kids who genuinely loved them but they were also getting extra income that helped them.




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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #25 on: January 18, 2019, 01:06:58 PM »
It definitely forces you to take inventory of your time.  Babysitter for two kids is about $15 an hour, and we always round up.  We havent seen a movie together in a theater in six years.  They've never made a movie that's worth a near $100 date night.

We save it for new restaurants we want to try, or going over to friends or a show or ocassionally a baseball game.

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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #26 on: January 18, 2019, 01:44:21 PM »
As for friends, I’m in a weird spot.  I have many close friends that I converse with regularly by text or phone but I hardly ever see them or get an opportunity to hang out with them.  Some of it is because of geography and some of it is family dynamics.

One of my best friends lives just fifteen minutes away in the next town over but our kids aren’t involved in the same activities.  If I’m at a softball tournament he’s at a soccer tournament.  If I’m at a basketball game he’s at a cheerleading competition.  

The other part of it is our wives.  Sometimes my wife is cool with me hanging out with a buddy watching a game or playing golf and other times she isn’t.  It’s the same with my friends’ wives.  

So, in a way I have a lot of friends but sometimes it feels like I don’t have any.

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Re: 2019 Offseason Stream of Unconsciousness
« Reply #27 on: January 18, 2019, 01:44:41 PM »
Our issue is that we only have the kids 5/14 days (5 nights every two weeks), and we generally try to make good use of our time with them, so in the last 2 1/2 years we've used in-home babysitters probably less than 5 times. As a result, we have no reliable babysitter on call. 

Luckily there is a drop-in daycare that we can use if we need someone for a few hours. That's come in handy in some cases where we wanted to do an activity that was only appropriate for one kid, and needed someone to watch the other two. But they're not open Sundays, so that makes it a little bit more limiting. 

 

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